Thanks for the interesting and heartfelt read, Mira. Been there myself, writing what I think is cool to the sound of crickets echoing in the room.
One way I've found to make peace with the situation is to divide my writing between writing what I want to write and what everyone else wants to read.
On that note, should you want to go that route, here are my Top Ten Tips For Medium Success (Bonus Edition). Hope they help!
https://medium.com/@spyderdarling/top-ten-tips-for-medium-success-758fdde6d9f6
PS By the way as I say in The Tao of Spyder, never quit, never quitting!